Compatibility vs Chemistry
As a matchmaker, I am continuously explaining the difference between Compatibility and Chemistry to my clients. Although they both start with the letter C and end with the letter Y, they are diametrically opposed and should not be mistaken for one another. Gentlemen can be smitten by a woman’s beauty and sex appeal, women may be wowed and feel they have experienced love at first sight. Some say they have never experienced such a feeling but others tell me they have been through this exhilarating feeling many times and wish to break the cycle indefinitely without having to compromise on looks and overall physical attraction.
Absolute Matchmaking Success Tip #1: Beware of the fireworks. They will not be enough if what you ultimately seek is a long term relationship or marriage.
Some of my clients share with me that they are tired of dating the wrong people. In my practice, I screen men and women for sincerity amongst many things and I look for core values and compatibility factors that will give a relationship a strong foundation for it to grow from. So, during a matchmaking consultation questions that are typically asked are: we will create a list of your Absolute Match Criteria (including core values, character traits, lifestyle, children, habits, revenue, education, traditions, faith, etc.) as well as a list of Absolute Negotiable Match Criteria. By the time we get to the physical, the same thing will be done, you will be asked for your Absolute Physical Attributes and Negotiable Physical Attributes. We end up with a pretty thorough list of compatibility factors and mother nature chemistry filled attributes that will arouse you sexually.
Why is it that the person that we first meet seems to be different a few months after we have met them? Were they misleading or was it that we were too busy falling in love and could not really identify if we were in fact compatible with each other? There are three types of masks that one can wear on first dates: The Best Self Mask, The Vulnerable Self Mask and the False Self Mask.